Days Three and Four both went pretty well. About the same as Day Two. The boys still really like being heroes to each other and will try to do nice things so they can be. There were still occasional fights, but sometimes when they'd start fighting, one of them would yell, "You're being a bully, not a hero!" So it is starting to sink in a bit.
In other news, Ben lost his third tooth yesterday. His top two teeth have been wiggly for a long time, but the third tooth he lost was one on the right side bottom, next to the middle bottom. He was very excited to have the tooth fairy come and was wondering what would happen if he saw her. He didn't see the tooth fairy, but was pretty excited to show his brothers the dollar he had under his pillow when he got up this morning.
Friday, May 2, 2008
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Results for Day Two
Day Two worked out much better than Day One. It helped to have read the story in FHE, so when the boys would start to fight, I'd just ask them, "Are you guys being bullies or heroes?" They'd usually stop fighting pretty quickly. They were all very excited to be able to be heroes to their brothers and do nice things. Chris decided that he wanted to bring a graham cracker up for everyone to have a snack, so he said he wanted to be a hero and do that. He and Alex also cleaned up a box of toys while Ben was at school that he had dumped out earlier. Ben and Alex were always running to get things for everyone and wanted to help out. They're all also much quicker to say sorry if they accidentally hurt each other.
Chris kind of cracked me up after he had been picking up some of the toys for Ben. He came and sat by me and said, "I'm a hero, huh Mom?" I said, "Yes, you are." "I'm a good guy, right?" "Yes, you are a very good guy." "I'm good, aren't I?" "Yes, you are very good." He grinned and gave me a hug and then ran off to do some more. I thought it was very cute.
Chris kind of cracked me up after he had been picking up some of the toys for Ben. He came and sat by me and said, "I'm a hero, huh Mom?" I said, "Yes, you are." "I'm a good guy, right?" "Yes, you are a very good guy." "I'm good, aren't I?" "Yes, you are very good." He grinned and gave me a hug and then ran off to do some more. I thought it was very cute.
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Day One's Results
So Day One of my experiment for the week was basically a complete and total failure. I did kind of expect that for the first day, since it seems like the opposition is always worse to try to get you to give up before anything good can come of it. Through the day, the boys actually fought more and threw more fits. At one point, the 3 oldest boys were all time out at the same time for a while.
On the up side, our Family Home Evening went pretty well and we read a story in the Friend called "Bullies and Brothers" that gave us a way to help the boys want to help each other. We just ask if they want to be a bully or be a hero. They want to be heroes. So we can move it on from that to have them think of ways they can be heroes to their brothers. They get very excited about being heroes, so they're more willing to think of ways they can help each other out and serve each other. It's also been working as a pretty good way to get them to stop fighting when they start, since no one wants to be a bully.
Hopefully with that to help, Day Two will go a lot better.
On the up side, our Family Home Evening went pretty well and we read a story in the Friend called "Bullies and Brothers" that gave us a way to help the boys want to help each other. We just ask if they want to be a bully or be a hero. They want to be heroes. So we can move it on from that to have them think of ways they can be heroes to their brothers. They get very excited about being heroes, so they're more willing to think of ways they can help each other out and serve each other. It's also been working as a pretty good way to get them to stop fighting when they start, since no one wants to be a bully.
Hopefully with that to help, Day Two will go a lot better.
Monday, April 28, 2008
Weight check for Daniel
I took Daniel in to the doctor today for a weight check and to check on his ears that still had fluid in them at his 9 month appointment. I had it planned so I could drop Alex off at preschool, take Daniel to the doctor, then get back in time to pick up Alex and then drop Ben off at the bus stop. Of course, things don't always go as planned.
To begin, I was a little late getting the kids in the van and over to Alex's preschool. So of course I was a little late to the doctor. On the up side, we didn't have to wait at all to go back. We went back to the room and the nurse listened to Daniel's pulse, then we stripped him down and took him to weigh him. He weighs 18 pounds, 7 ounces. Then we went back to the room and had to wait a little bit for the doctor to come in. He asked some general health questions and asked if Daniel still has a runny nose or coughs. His runny nose and cough will stop for a couple days, then start back up, then stop, then start back up. Then the doctor looked at the growth chart and showed that Daniel's weight has a good curve and is on the way back up a little bit. It seemed to be at about 15%, but I couldn't see it really well. Thinking back, it was probably just below the 10% line. Still much better than Chris was at this age ... he was off the low end of the chart. He then listened to Daniel's chest and said he could still hear some wheezing in his lungs, but at this age, it's not too big of a concern and not really anything they'd do about it anyway. He then checked Daniel's ears, which both looked good.
We were free to go after standing in line for a little bit to make Daniel's next appointment, which is his 12 month well-baby check-up. We hurried to the van and got everyone buckled in and saw that it was almost 11:00, which meant that we'd be late to both pick up Alex and for the bus. Especially when we kept getting behind really slow drivers and kept hitting all the red lights. Ben really wanted us to try to make it to his bus, so we decided to try to drop him off there before picking up Alex. We saw that we had missed the bus at Ben's stop and the next stop from way down the street. From there, I couldn't tell if it had turned into the next subdivision or if it had turned onto Cherry to go into the third subdivision. I drove up past the entrance to the next subdivision and saw the bus pulling out, so we hurried and turned around and went down Cherry to the next stop. Ben was very happy to get on the bus.
After we dropped Ben off at the bus, we went to pick up Alex, who was happily playing with Ashtyn and eating pretzels. Luckily I had warned Ashtyn's mom that we were going to the doctor and she had said it was fine if we were a little late picking up Alex.
Then after getting gas in the van (at $3.399 a gallon!), we finally made it home where the boys played outside for a bit before we came in for lunch. So even though things never go quite as planned, it's nice that they turn out okay anyway.
To begin, I was a little late getting the kids in the van and over to Alex's preschool. So of course I was a little late to the doctor. On the up side, we didn't have to wait at all to go back. We went back to the room and the nurse listened to Daniel's pulse, then we stripped him down and took him to weigh him. He weighs 18 pounds, 7 ounces. Then we went back to the room and had to wait a little bit for the doctor to come in. He asked some general health questions and asked if Daniel still has a runny nose or coughs. His runny nose and cough will stop for a couple days, then start back up, then stop, then start back up. Then the doctor looked at the growth chart and showed that Daniel's weight has a good curve and is on the way back up a little bit. It seemed to be at about 15%, but I couldn't see it really well. Thinking back, it was probably just below the 10% line. Still much better than Chris was at this age ... he was off the low end of the chart. He then listened to Daniel's chest and said he could still hear some wheezing in his lungs, but at this age, it's not too big of a concern and not really anything they'd do about it anyway. He then checked Daniel's ears, which both looked good.
We were free to go after standing in line for a little bit to make Daniel's next appointment, which is his 12 month well-baby check-up. We hurried to the van and got everyone buckled in and saw that it was almost 11:00, which meant that we'd be late to both pick up Alex and for the bus. Especially when we kept getting behind really slow drivers and kept hitting all the red lights. Ben really wanted us to try to make it to his bus, so we decided to try to drop him off there before picking up Alex. We saw that we had missed the bus at Ben's stop and the next stop from way down the street. From there, I couldn't tell if it had turned into the next subdivision or if it had turned onto Cherry to go into the third subdivision. I drove up past the entrance to the next subdivision and saw the bus pulling out, so we hurried and turned around and went down Cherry to the next stop. Ben was very happy to get on the bus.
After we dropped Ben off at the bus, we went to pick up Alex, who was happily playing with Ashtyn and eating pretzels. Luckily I had warned Ashtyn's mom that we were going to the doctor and she had said it was fine if we were a little late picking up Alex.
Then after getting gas in the van (at $3.399 a gallon!), we finally made it home where the boys played outside for a bit before we came in for lunch. So even though things never go quite as planned, it's nice that they turn out okay anyway.
Service challenge
Yesterday I was planning my lesson for Gospel Doctrine next week. We're probably a little behind most people because of when we had our snow day and church was cancelled. We're on lesson 15, which covers Mosiah 1-3. In the lesson, it has you discuss the leadership qualities of King Benjamin and things that impress you about how he led. After you discuss that, it asks the question, "How were the people affected by King Benjamin's leadership?" and has you read Mosiah 1:1 and one in Mosiah 6 (I can't remember which specific verse). Both verses mention how there was no contention among the people through the rest of King Benjamin's life. As I read this, I got to thinking about how my kids, like most kids, often fight. I decided that this week in part of preparation for my lesson, I'm going to do an experiment. I'm going to try to get my children to serve each other and do nice things for each other to see if it helps reduce some of the fighting. As I thought about it, I remembered other times where one of them would do something nice and help another and they'd get along really well for a while. I'm also going to make sure we don't slack off and get in our regular family scripture study and family prayer. Tonight for FHE, we'll probably have a lesson on service and what it means to serve others and ways we can do it. I'm actually pretty confident that we'll see positive results from this, especially as Bryce and I join in the service too.
So my challenge today is to join me in my experiment and then let me know how it worked for you. If you do it and let me know by like Saturday, I could even use examples in my lesson. :) And if you think, "I don't have kids, so I can't do this," you're just kidding yourself. You can still do it at work or with extended families or neighbors. I'm also thinking of calling one or two families in my class and asking if they'd join in the experiment.
So my challenge today is to join me in my experiment and then let me know how it worked for you. If you do it and let me know by like Saturday, I could even use examples in my lesson. :) And if you think, "I don't have kids, so I can't do this," you're just kidding yourself. You can still do it at work or with extended families or neighbors. I'm also thinking of calling one or two families in my class and asking if they'd join in the experiment.
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